“Do you miss him at the most happy and fulfilling times of your life? Just because you miss him when the world is quiet and you feel alone doesn’t mean you love him. You will miss anyone when you’re lonely. It’s when your life is going great and you still feel that ache in your heart because he isn’t there to see the genuine smile on your face and happiness in your life.”—Daily Tumblr Love Quotes (via thelovewhisperer)
“We all have that boy; he’s the boy we try to pretend we aren’t looking for as we make our way to class. He’s the boy that we lie about and claim to not care about anymore. He’s the boy that gives you the cliche butterflies, complete with the weakness in the knees. He’s the boy we’re thinking about as we read this. I think every single girl has this boy, and every single girl will remember him forever - he’s not the one for us, but he’ll always be somewhere in our hearts.”—Daily Tumblr Love Quotes (via thelovewhisperer)
Someone recently asked me if I’d ever been cheated on. A storm of pain began in the pit of my stomach. “Yes,” I replied, “Emotionally.”
What does that even mean? An emotional affair is a connection with someone of the opposite sex that you keep a secret from your partner. The operative word is ‘cheating’. And yes, it definitely counts. Many convince themselves that as long as there’s no sex, it’s not an affair. But it is. Flirtatious e-mails, sexting on mobiles, coffee and cosy heart-to-heart. It’s a new kind of adultery.
Some years ago, I caught my then-boyfriend going behind my back. My radar was already on high alert when a close buddy dropped a hint about the status of my relationship with him. He had become aloof and distant; we scarcely texted and barely met.
He Developed Attachment
I confronted him about it maturely and he admitted having developed an emotional attachment to another girl that involved lots of texting and hanging out. I don’t think he was looking for it, but he connected with her and it was a slippery slope. Boy, did it hurt. It seemed like every sad song I heard on the radio was about what I was going through.
5 Red Flags of a Slippery Slope; Signs You are Cheating
1. You’re keeping secret the amount of time you’re spending with the person.
2. You contact them outside of ‘friendship hours’ and start piling excuses to your partner.
3. You dress up for that person.
4. You share stuff that you don’t even share with your other half.
5. You start to feel dependent on the emotional high that comes with the relationship.
Now, now. No need to panic. This infestation is temporary, thank god. And since any way to get rid of them is probably a crime, I think it would be best to get to know these people instead. How do we do that? Through their posts of course! Once again, a fist bump to Instagram…
“It sucks that we miss people like that. You think you’ve accepted that someone is out of your life, that you’ve grieved and it’s over, and then bam. One little thing, and you feel like you’ve lost that person all over again.”—Rachel Hawkins, Demonglass (via creatingaquietmind)
Like, you don’t actually love them and you know you don’t, but you know you could. You realise that you could easily fall in love with them. It’s almost like the bud of a flower, ready to blossom but it’s just not quite there yet. And you like them a lot, you really do. You think about them often, but you don’t love them. You could, though. You know you could.”—
“We had said good-bye so many times before, but somehow our paths always managed to cross and we ended up in each other’s arms. But now when we said this goodbye I have this feeling that I will never see you again. And that really hurts because I know that we are meant to lead our own separate lives. And I honestly don’t wanna cross your path in the future cause I don’t want all these feelings to come back and have to try to get over all over again.”—Daily Relatable Love Quotes (via thelovewhisperer)